Confidence, a trait I’m sure we’d all love to have. The you can do it attitude that was preached to us as children, the same one we talk to our children about. Not in a pressureful way, more of an ‘I want you to do well’ sort of way.
There are many ways to improve your child’s confidence, but a great way of doing so is by interaction with other children, especially if they’re pre school/nursery. It allows them to bounce off each other, for example, take my line of work; they see a mother and daughter dancing together, which encourages them to reciprocate the same actions.
I think the trick is finding that happy medium of knowing how much you should take your child out of their comfort zone and how much they should be mothered, because as adults we learn how to fake how we really feel, our exterior can appear as confident when really we’re a bag of nerves. A child isn’t able to do this so it’s clear to see when they need that little bit of extra motivation.
Of course, the older they get the more their confidence will grow but it’s nice to give them that bit of a head start. At least before they become teenagers, in which case everything you do for them is only to make their life harder (that was a joke by the way).
Here are some tips that will help build your child’s confidence:
- Extracurricular activities/hobbies – identifying their strengths and weaknesses and allowing them to have that interaction with other children. This also allows them to grow up with children who harbor the same interests as they do.
- Don’t show them your anxieties, or show them that you think they may not be able to cope with a situation. It only breeds more anxiety and adds doubts in their head.
- Let them spend more time with adults (besides you). This means they are spoken to and tested in different ways, making them think and learn in new ways. This becomes less needed when they reach nursery. According to Parents Magazine 2008 research has shown that this makes children more resilient when growing up.